Tribeca Film Festival
Early in Flames, we see the film's co-writers, co-editors, co-directors, and co-stars, Zefrey Throwell and Josephine Decker, in the first of many compromising positions. Decker's hanging off a bed upside down and naked, while Throwell, standing right-side up, has comically unglamorous sex with her, his pumping ass facing the camera while they both laugh. We're seeing a real side of sex that Joe Swanberg explored in his early films but that's not often acknowledged by cinema (which usually offers erotic and romantic titillation that's self-seriously sanitized): its potentialities as a hang-out activity, when one's grown so comfortable with a partner that self-consciousness eases and pleasure deepens. Knowledge that one doesn't have to elicit an orgasm per minute from their partner is freedom—a step toward lovers allowing themselves to be human in one another's company.